Soll ich meine Afrohaare natürlich oder glatt tragen? #thestruggle

Hallo ihr Divas!

Heute, wollte ich mit euch über ein Thema sprechen: 
Afrohaare. Lass mich zuerst klären:

Mit diesem Beitrag möchte ich mich öffnen! Ich möchte ein Gespräch führen. Damit wir uns alle gut verstehen und kennenlernen können.


Als eine Person, die afrikanischer Herkunft ist, wurden mir viele Fragen betreffend meine Haare gestellt. Egal wo ich bin, ob meine Haare natürlich oder mit Haarverlängerungen gestylt sind,  lockig/kraus oder glatt sind...irgendwie, irgendwo, irgendwann machen meine Haare neugierig. Ich bekomme viele Fragen und Kommentare dazu. And...I totally get it. Ich bin fremd and to a certain extent “exotisch”, da ich Ausländer bin. Natürlich möchte man fremde und neue Sachen genau wissen und verstehen, daher kommen die Fragen... 

Bitte beachten, manche Fragen sind vollkommen in Ordnung und andere kann etwa beleidigend sein. Was für Fragen und Kommentare hör ich? Siehe unten.



Wie fühle ich mich, wenn solche Frage mir gestellt würden?

Naja, es hängt vom Grund an. Frage aus healthy curiosity und ohne Beleidigung sind antworte ich gerne. Ich begrüße Neugier und Interesse!! :) Ich freue mich wenn ich jemandem was über Afrohaare beibringen kann. Ansonsten, sind freche und unverschämte Fragen unerwünscht.

Nach meiner Erfahrung, habe ich die meisten unverschämten Fragen und Kommentare in den Staaten erlebt. Bitte bedenken, dass ich viel Zeit in den Großstädten Deutschlands verbracht, wo es vielfältig und multikulti ist. Ich weiß nicht wie alles in den kleinen Dörfer läuft und ob die Leute dort schon an sowas (Afrodeutsche/Afrohaare) gewöhnt sind. Aber in den Großstädten, hatte ich nur Neugier erlebt. Das heißt nicht, dass man solche Fragen/Kommentare nicht erwarten soll oder erleben wird, denn ich rede nur aus meinen Erfahrungen.

Was für Kommentare habt ihr bzgl Afrohaare angehoert?

Was für Fragen wurden dir gestellt?

Ich freu mich auf alle Antworten :)

Xoxo,



La Deutsche Diva

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Hey Divas,

I wanted to talk about
natural black hair (African hair) today. Let me explain:

With this post, I would like to open myself a little and foster discussion. I would love for us to understand each other well and get to know each other better.

As a person of African descent, I have been asked a lot of questions about my hair. It doesn’t matter whether I’m wearing extensions or my natural hair, curly/nappy or straight, somehow, somewhere, someone is curious about my hair. I receive so many questions and comments about it. I get it, I’m foreign and considered “exotic” by some. Naturally, people would have questions and want to know more about foreign things and that’s where the questions originate…

Please note, some questions are totally in order and understandable and others can be insulting. What kind of questions and comments do I get? Take a look below:

Original art that inspired the post


How do I feel, when people ask me those types of questions?

Well, it depends on why they are asking. Questions that stem from a healthy curiosity about me and without offense, I love to answer. I welcome curiosity and interest ☺ I am so excited, to teach someone about African hair. Otherwise, I do not welcome rude, fresh or otherwise offensive questions.

In my experience, I experienced the most out of control questions here in the states. Please understand that I’ve spent most of my time in Germany in the larger cities. So I have no idea what it’s like dealing with small town folk there. I’m used to dealing with places in Germany that are multi-cultural and diverse. I experienced curiosity in the bigger cities there. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t expect to be asked or hear certain comments from people in bigger cities. I’m just saying that’s my experience so far.

What are the questions you’ve been asked about African hair?

What are things that people are curious to know about African hair?

Share your experiences, questions and comments below!

Xoxo,



La Deutsche Diva

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8 comments :

  1. Mostly I've got funny comments, not questions...

    Once my Chinese friend saw me after 2 months with braids in my hair and was so excited to see how much my hair had grown haha!

    Then the time walking around the African quartier in Paris with my afro, and people asking if I wanted to get my hair done :(

    After my most recent haircut last spring, my dad said I looked like a little girl, while my mum said I looked like a model. Didn't know who to believe!

    Mostly though I get people complimenting my hair, because the think it's brave of me to change (chop and grow) it so often.

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    1. I know exactly what you are talking about... I've had similar comments that they don't realize I didn't cut my hair it's just a new 'do. It's ok. I just don't like the comments about texture of my hair or asking me stuff like how I can get a comb through it or if I wear weave because I'm bald headed or can't grow my hair. Maybe it's a protective style? Maybe I like the versatility of having straight hair without the heat damage to my real hair? Maybe I like the versatility of choosing between afro and straight? Maybe I like experimenting with color without damaging my own hair with dyes and harsh chemicals? Yes I like really long hair I'm dramatic like that but I also like my afro. When I straighten my hair because it looks longer than my shrunken afro they ask if it's weave. Can I live? Lol

      Xoxo,


      La Deutsche Diva

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  2. OK ich verstehe alle nicht aber I got the gist of the post! Duh!! Lol
    Meine Mutter mag meine Haare nicht aber das ist kein Problem weil sie sie nicht verstehe. Ich habe so viel schlechte Worte aber gute Worte kommt auch. And i unterstand that because ppl are not used to seeing anyone stand out and that's what having afro hair does. It makes u different from the crowd and of course in a good way! I've had strangers give me advice on how to "manage" my hair, telling me my afro would not get me a job or a husband. A girl i knew once told me I can't date a Caucasian man with my hair looking like that! Ironically, Gorgeousness loves it and gets the sad look when I go protective styling! In the dating days, I met this hot Greek doc who saw my real hair and panicked! It was hilarious to say the least. He then proceeds to tell me of a south African woman he dated(when I explained my hair was African) and as if that wasn't bad enough, he shows me her picture! A Caucasian south African who of course didn't have afro hair! That was the end of that budding Beziehung. Ive worked in a place where my boss hated my hair( and she was a nigerian woman). So yes, I've had a lot of negative reception but for some reason, it has never hurt me! I just nod and say thank you. My classmates are curious and always want to know how long I spend on my hair, what products I use and how my gravity defying hair can do things their own hair can't dream of. Once I carried my hair in a wild afro in the Stadt Zentrum and had a few ppl going oh my wow! In a good way but then again I get that often from Gorgeousness so .....lol

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    1. J, I completely understand. I wish my afro was as big as yours. Mine looks ok
      When it's stretched but I don't want it to be stretched I want it to be big at it's most fully shrunken. If that makes sense.

      I think it's great that you found someone who loves that natural hair. That's one of my issues I wore my hair in Germany natural once. I straightened it (after much ado finding good heat protectant) while I was at my ex's house and he couldn't believe the difference in straight length vs. the shrunken fro. He asked why I wear weave if my hair is so long. I said when I want my hair straight wear weave. If I want an afro or curls or just to be free, I wear my afro. If I want it blond, red or some other weird color (I'm trying colors now) I get a wig and be done. I like having options. :)

      You and Gorgeousness really give me hope. I know I'll find a nice German speaking guy who loves my real hair, my weave and everything in between :)

      Xoxo,

      La Deutsche Diva

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  3. Oh yes!!!! Daumen drücken!!!!!! AS for colors, im too afraid to try that so I'm thinking about experimenting with colored braids. So my next wool twist would be very!!!

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  4. Bloody autocorrect! Ich meinte sehr grau

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  5. Grrrrrrrrrrrr... Honey I neither speak nor understand German *wailing*

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    1. I have other entries in English. Thanks for visiting!!

      Xoxo,


      La Deutsche Diva

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